What not to do when you are desperate about having a girl friend !!

My target readers
• If you are a guy, age >=22 and still single....welcome to the club. Read this very seriously.
• If you are a guy, not single then reading this is not worth your time.
• If you are a girl there is nothing new here, I know most of you are omniscient.

On a random day, at a random place you come across a random girl and you get an instant feeling that she is the "one" for you. In the next few mins of talk, the inevitable question comes up "Are you on Orkut?"...Now that's the beginning. You take her email ID, flick her chat ID from Orkut and start loading her inbox with messages, forwards, funny mails, quotes etc etc., . You are always online for her and the moment you comes online the question pops up on her window, "Hey hi, wass up?" You always go to places where there is a chance of seeing her. You try to run in to her and pretend that it was accidental. You wear nice dresses and try to look good on the days when there is a high probability of meeting her. After that you take her phone number and start calling her every day. For the first few days she picks up the phone, then slowly she starts giving the busy tone and the next stage is total avoidance. But, you always believe that she is interested in you or at least you don't want to accept the truth. For some of you the big day comes when you express your feelings to her and you don't even have to wait for her reply, it is generally, "I did not see you in that way, can we be just friends?". Some don't even reach that stage, they hide their feelings, but in either case one thing is common, the girl's name ends up being the password for the next few months.

As soon as they realize that they have reached the "age", guys start trying to impress girls. Some try to show-off that they are smart and some have this weird belief that girls consider stupid guys as cute. Intelligence to innocence, being introvert to extrovert, being classy to messy, strong to weak ..anything and everything, every guy has own strategy. I don't know who came up with this quote "Everything is fair in love and war", he (not she) must probably have been one of them. I don't know why guys fail to understand that girls are smart enough to understand all these and why would not they? Even before they realize that they are "girls", guys start hitting on them, one after the other, day and night, not allowing them even to breathe properly.

After reading till here some of you might be in dilemma whether you are really desperate or not. It's very easy to come to a conclusion. Take a paper and answer the following questions in Yes or No

1. Whenever you see a girl walking on the road ahead of you, Do you increase your walking speed, walk past her and then turn back to see her face?
2. Do you become very conscious about what you are talking, when you are around with girls?
3. Do you try to be cool or someone else in order to impress girls?
4. Do you think staying clam or moody when in a group makes the girl think about you?
5. You ask a girl to join you for lunch or coffee; do you think a YES from other side is an indication that she is interested in you?
6. Do you keep staring at girls?
7. Are you ready to date a girl even if she is around with someone else as well?
8. Is "Girls" the main topic of all your discussions with your friends?

If you find even a single "YES" in the paper then YOU ARE DESPERATE. Be a man, accept it.

Now the real question "What not to do when you are desperate about having a girl friend?"
Did you actually believe that I would come up with some solution or tips? Had I known it, would I be still single? It was just a trick to make you guys read this one. But, I have one tip though, first and foremost STOP being desperate. I know that it is difficult. At least try not to show that you are desperate. The rule is simple, "No one in this world cares for a thing that is easily gettable" and For Your Information girls are never worried about finding a guy and why do they have to? Did you ever come across a girl who never had a Boy Friend or never been proposed by a guy? If yes, then that's a miracle, you met a rare species or an extinct one in this world.

If you got the tip that you wanted and don't want to read any further it's fine. But, I would recommend reading further. Trust me, keep reading.

We know that we are the ones who make the girls realize that they are important, treat them as if they are precious, tell them that they are beautiful and show that they are in demand. We buy them gifts, spend all the money we have, do their work, roam around with them all the time, carry their stuff and in the end what do we get in return? a few thanks and an offer to be a good friend. Do we need all this? If 1/1000 th of the time wasted on a girl is spent on a guy you will find a friend for a lifetime. Just play some game together or watch a movie, give him a cigarette or buy him a drink and that is it. Realize that spending a night with your friends drinking till everyone pukes, having a hangover throughout the next day is more fun than spending the same night with your girl in a pub buying her drinks, talking crap, listening crap, making some crap moves..... What ever.

Guys before letting ur imagination run wild lemme make my stance clear.This is just a mail forward which I recived from one of my colleague which I felt would be an interesting read.I dont completely subscribe to the views of the author........ :)

Dont have a particular topic for this post for now ;)

Last Friday I travelled to Chennai by bus. As usual I went to the bus stand and to my surprise there wasn’t a single Chennai bus around which surprised me a bit. On one end of the depot I saw a bus marked as going to Chennai. I was happy and ran towards the bus because the bus was about to leave the depot. Somehow I managed to board the bus. There was a guy in his late forties standing on the path. He was the conductor of the bus and I asked him as to whether there are unoccupied seats available for which he replied in a rude manner. I was not that happy with him for the way he replied to me and to some other people as well. So I said I am getting down. Then he changed his tone completely and gave me a seat number asking me to occupy that. I went and sat in that seat and I started observing him. He was loud, rude and at times very frank about his opinion. This formed a bad opinion about him in my mind though frankly speaking it doesn’t matter to him as to what I think about him. For some strange reason I did not feel sleepy that whole night and since I was in the first row of the bus I noticed that the conductor was not sleeping the entire journey and he made sure that he kept on chatting with the guy. He made sure that the driver was feeling comfortable. He was discharging his duties sincerely though may not be in a way others would approve of. This incident made me think. Appearances are often deceptive. I know a lot of people saying that I m a perfect example for that … But in most of the situations it is only based on first appearance/meeting that we form a opinion about a person. How great it would be in a relationship if we can defer forming opinions about a person whom we meet till we get to know more about a person? Above all how great it would be if we don’t have any expectations from a relationship and manage to relish every moment of the time we get to spend with people?
This is something which we need to ponder or atleast I need to ponder…….

An Embarassing Moment

Usually I have the habit of becoming excited when I listen to my favourite music compositions and irrespective of the location I have the habit of lending my voice to the compiosition and spoiling it for eternity or thats wat my friends say ;).Yeah I know u guys would have already started pitying the people who r nearby;). An incident of this sort happened when I was in Hyderabad. On that eventful(really eventful? naaaaahhhhhh) I was listening to songs and mind u that was the first time I was listening to songs in office and that too without my best pal(the mainframe as we call him) around.I still remember that the song was "Vizhikalil arukinil vaanam..."Its one of my all time favourite and after hearing that how on earth will I not sing? I started as I normally do at my home or for that matter anyother place.
On that day there were two colleagues who moved in nearby to our cubicle.I guess they would have had a shock of their life when they heard me singing or atleast thats wat my friend DON as we call her recalls that incident. I never noticed that they were around but some time later I recalled that I was in office and stopped all of a sudden.But unfortunately I never knew that those two collagues were having a gud laugh;) Later on Don told me that incident and initially I felt embarassed (I stress it again "initially").I am happy that on that day there were not many people.Or else there would have been permanent damage to their olfactory lobes;)

And guys u know wat after that,its only today I m listening to songs when I m at office and I m finding it difficult to control .....
Fanaa.... from Yuva ....... Me about to break in to a dance step....

Holding Tongue in Check

The other day when I was reading Dada's interview, the only thought that crossed my mind was "How can we control our tongue without reacting too much when we are angry?" I have asked this question many a times to myself because I m a firm believer of the fact that words exchanged at the heat of the moment stays on forever ..... Sometime back I was of the opinion that walking out of that situation without opening your mouth is the best option. But having done a controversial walkout in Hyderabad for which even now I repent I have to admit that I have changed my strategy (Strategy ;) ).Nowadays I just react as if nothing has happened. Already I have a habit of not showing my emotions in my face and with this no one can guess whether I am angry or not. I have to admit that I have been quite successful in many a occasions. Even yesterday during a argument with my brother I was completely pissed of.But I did not argue with him. After that one sided discussion I was actually happy for the fact that I never even uttered a word. I really enjoyed that feeling of able to control the emotion ;).I got a high kick(like a tequila shot ;) ) infact that was the second time on the same day. The other one was with a team member. I enjoyed every bit of the ability to control your emotions(Not the actual moments though). The one which I will cherish forever was the one that happened in Hyderabad. A group of 20 people including me ,went to Ramoji Film City(The most boring place in this whole world or atleast I felt it that way).When we were waiting for our turn for a ride, two people jumped the line and stood in front of us. I and my friend were red in anger. My friend started shouting. For some strange reason I did not shout nor did I react. I just said to my friend that’s ok leave them. Then as soon we went inside for the ride I opted for the bumper car which was next to one of the person who jumped the line. I started targeting him and was actually very successful in colliding my car on his car repeatedly. He literally got pissed of and was shouting in Hindi. But I ignored him completely. That was fun.

Even now I will have to admit that at times I show my temper to my parents. Maybe the fact that they r my parents and they can accept my true self(short tempered Balaji) makes me react this way ;).

Dada, if you have really reacted the way newspaper reports claims to be I feel it would have been better had you voiced your views after the series. Even after this incident you r my role model because, after all you are human and humans have the liberty to err. ;)

Zindagi mein thoda compromise karna hain ....

This was the dialogue that stood out when I saw Rock On. What a movie....
Nice way to begin a week.Actually I was about to write my admission essays when I thought why not watch this movie.I watched it and enjoyed every bit of it. It reminded me of my ITLECTS and LN gang. The spirit of living for others is the one that stands out when u are in a Gang.
Coming back to this film, the best part of the film was that no one is perfect(including Farhan Akhtar).Each one had a bit of grey attitude with them which is absolutely true in our every day life.
"Zindagi mein thoda compromise karna hai ...."
Do we really have to? I guess so. Before letting ur imaginations run wild let me make myself clear that it does not mean that one should compromise in one's core values to achieve whatever they want.Last week one of my friend asked me an interesting question."You said u felt homesick in Bangalore when u stayed there only for a month then what made u to quit the current job u r in and join a company in Bangalore".I guess the answer for that question would be "Zindagi mein thoda compromise karna hai ".

Btw guys I was planning to post a small writeup of "25 years of my life".But boredom creeped in when I was in 10th year of my life.So I have shelved it for now.Lets see whether I will be able to make it up before the "D" Day.

PS: Please don't try to find fault in the title. To know more about my hindi skills you guys will have to check out my orkut testimonial :)

My religion: Humanism

In my previous blog I had shared a incident in which I was pretty sure that I should have reacted but I did not.....
In this blog I am sharing an incident in which I reacted may be a bit a too much..... Did I react a bit too much ?
Sometime back I traveled on a train to Hyderabad to meet my friends there. That was the first time I am going back after my transfer to Chennai and so I was very eager to go meet them. At around six in the evening I boarded the train. If I travel alone I usually prefer a side berth which was the case here as well. I settle down in my seat. The train starts to move and I start to have a look of people around me. To the left of me there were five people traveling in a group. I guessed there were three school students in the group which was the case and they were accompanied by two masters (if I can call them that way).I was deep into my thoughts when I started to hear the conversation of that gang. Apparently the students were asking some questions for which the elderly fellow was answering. The core topic of discussion was GOD and Religion. The elderly guy(say Mr. X) was answering that there is only one GOD (the one which they are worshipping) and there is only one religion(which they are following).He started to compare other religion with his and started sharing his views about them. I started to look around the compartment to see how people reacted to this. To the seat opposite to mine there was a guy who was friend of TTE sitting in TTE's seat. He also started to overhear the conversation. He was totally against the views of Mr.X. Even I was in the same situation. I had nothing against the religion he preached nor am I a staunch believer in Religion. But what made me angry was the way in which he was corrupting the young minds . Then after the discussion which went on for around an hour those people started distributing pamphlets. I was also offered a pamphlet I rejected it saying that I m not a staunch believer of any religion. Others in the compartment received those pamphlets without any fuss. Mr.X came and sat next to me and asked me about my profession. I replied to him saying that I m a software engr. He smiled and said that he expected it. Then he said he was also a software engineer who later on took up the current job voluntarily. Then he asked me why I refused the pamphlet. I said I don’t believe in any religion neither do I believe in the existence of a GOD that almost all religion project of. But I am a firm believer in the existence of Almighty. He asked me to elaborate a bit more about that. I thought about it for a second and by now many people were looking at us. I replied him back saying that I don’t wish to carry on with this conversation and ended the conversation abruptly. After that he went to his seat and continued with his conversation. Sometime later the TTE came to my seat. TTE’s friend who was sitting opposite to me narrated the incident to him. The TTE later on shook my hands and said “accha kaam”.I did not reply to him as well because I knew he was also mad about his religion and that is why he thanked.
What made me to react to that incident? I could have remained a mute spectator to what happened around me? Definitely its not because of hatred towarda any particular community....
Its because Mr.X was corrupting peoples mind. May be in my next blog I will share my views on GOD I believe in... :)

I shoud have reacted .....

This incident happened around a month back . I was in Bangalore then and I was new to the place. I was staying in heart of the city. I even now remember that day vividly.That was one of those horrible days in which nothing worked fine. Lots of work but none of our fixes worked. We usually had dinner in the same place and infact the same food.After some time even the bearer started to bring us food without even taking orders from us :).Thats how monotonous life was.On that day after completing our dinner we were walking towards our hotel.Just next to my hotel there was a chat stall.I was nearing the hotel lobby along with my colleagues when I saw a a person in his mid forties picking up a pav from the road that was in the road supposedly thrown away by the chat shop walah while closing the shop and started eating it.Infact he did not even stay there after picking the pav he just passed away slowly eating it.I was shocked to see that. With due respect to the person the next visual that went thru my mind was a stray animal eating the food.But then I realized immediately that it was a man(a human being). My mind and heart said in unison that I will have to give a 50 Rs note to that person asking him to have some good food.
But for some strange reason I did not act and as I entered the hotel lobby that person went away .I still don't know why I reacted that way.Usually I react immediately but on that day I don't know what happened.... I thought about it the whole night but I was not able to find a reason why I did not react.

What struck me about that person was that he did not beg.There were lots of people around and every night I usually notice atleast one person seeking alms.But this person did not do so.As a matter of fact I don't encourage begging and so usually don't give money to people.But this person did not expect any money neither from me nor from others.

So why did I not react ?

Would I have reacted differently if it was for some other day?

These questions will always remain unanswered. Life goes on and I am sure I will again face such a situation.I hope I don't repeat the same mistake I did that day ....... This incident will remain etched forever close to my heart .....

When will this ever change?

During my school days I had a Maths tutor who had an interesting habit of involving people into conversation by starting a discussion about sensitive topics... Somehow we happened to start discussing about reservation in education.... I still remember the below exchange of views...

MathsTutor: Y should the reservation system be changed? Our forefathers have been victims...

My Friend: It should change for the fact that I will not be having equal opportunities to compete with....

....

The discussion below is when I was in Hyderabad.... (I don't wish to name the person I was also involved in the discussion...)

Person1: Do u think there should be reservation system?

Person2: No It should not...

Person1: It should exist .Our forefathers have been victims of discrimination.

Person2: When will we stop discriminating people? Will it go on and on ...

(I remember this conversation going on for an hour or so......)

.....

There was a gap of five years between those two conversation.But the mindset of the people have not changed....


I am for one who is not able to comprehend the viewpoint of people who support reservation.
During those days if I m correct most people of the backward community belonged to economically weaker sections of the society and therefore for their upliftment BABA Saheb Ambedkar envisioned a system which will bring then to mainstream. To an extent this system worked.But now in the current context where the current generation does not believe in caste and creed the current form of reservation just divides the society. We no longer need a reservation system which is based on caste or creed.To be frank we don't need reservation system at all.Let the admission procedure em be open and transparent.What message are we conveying to the future generation? Are we saying that "even if" hardwork does not pay,they can always bank on their lineage to get an admission or a job? To me even money power shouldn't work...
What sort of transparency is this?

The true purpose of reservation is for the upliftment of lower sections of the society. In those days there was a disparity between the "so called" upper caste and the "so called" lower caste.To eliminate this a reservation system based on caste system was introduced.But the only form of discrimination I can see now is between the haves and have nots. It is present even in temples where there is an option of so called "Speed Darshan" which only the certain section can afford. If the affluent section of the society cannot afford to waste their time by standing in queue then there is no point in those people coming to worship the deity ... (In this context I was happy when I read a article which said about TTD contemplating about scrapping away special darshans). Coming to the current topic can we have a reservation system based on Income Groups? Actually speaking reservation system based on family income can be an alternate option. But is there a guarantee even that cannot be misused? The answer is no.So the best option is to scrap the reservation policy once and for all.Instead the government can ensure no meritorious student is denied a seat based on external factors like want of money. Reservation system at present only divides our country into smaller section which in turn is vulnerable in the hands of divisive forces.

Will Reservation policy ever be scrapped? In an era of vote bank politics and at a time where each and every party supports either one community or the other and at a time at which the word "secular" has lost its true meaning I don't see it happening.

Fuel Rationing/ Differential Fuel price

Of late even common man has started to track the price of a oil barrel. I remember having discussions in my office with team mates about the price of a oil barrel and its consequences.(Even though professionally price of an oil barrel has nothing to do with my work) . That is the sort of situation we Indians are in now. This is from a lay mans perspective.

But if you think about the fiscal deficit of the oil companies many would agree that these companies are bleeding financially already and so this hike cannot be avoided. If there wasn’t a considerable hike then the oil companies wouldn’t have had money to even import fuel. They would have gone completely bankrupt.

Is fuel rationing and differential price regime of fuels the only saving grace?
To me for a country like India which is almost dependent on imported crude for its usage and where the divide between haves and have nots is huge the answer is yes. I for one , wholeheartedly support subsidies because the so called poverty alleviation programs that are being implemented by the successive government don’t reach the people for whom they were actually planned for. When the government cannot provide ways by which an average Indian cannot increase his/her annual income well above the poverty line then the government definitely has to bear with the overhead of subsidies. But my point is that the government should definitely ponder about the following question.Why should the government sell fuel at subsidized rate for affluent sections of the society? I understand the point in government sharing the cost burden of LPG cylinder of a family whose monthly income is 3000 but why should it give the same LPG cylinder at the same cost to a family whose monthly income is around 50000 ? At the end it is the common man’s tax which goes into government coffers which in turn is given as subsidies. So will the affluent upper middle class and the filthy reach be affected by this increasing prices?Yes I agree they will also be affected but my argument is that they will not be affected to the extent of the common man or a man whose annual income is just above the poverty line. (Please remember that LPG is not the only one there are several items that are been subsidized). For the economically weaker sections their daily bread and butter is affected because of this price hike….
I mean the chain effect this fuel price hike would have on the food items….

So why cant the affluent upper class take this as a moral responsibility and support a price regime wherein they compensate for the fiscal losses in subsidies by filling their fuel drinking SUV petrol tanks at an higher cost? I for one will definitely support and will be ready to pay . But will this be really implemented is a different question for which each one of us has an answer. In an era of vote bank politics there wont be many takers to this idea. But to me this is the only way using which India can safely navigate the current fuel crisis. I understand the cost cutting measures being taken by the current government. But these measures do not have a cascading effect on the society . I personally do not have anything against the filthy rich or the upper middle class (I too belong to one of these section) but it is high time that we as Indian citizens act morally and totally accept this differential pricing concept(if implemented) to tide away the current crisis(if I can call it so). Will we raise to the occasion?

Looking forward for your comments….

Auto Outsourcing !#@?

We have heard about BPO , KPO but AO (Automobile Outsourcing ) ?? When I read about it sometime back I thought this is a good chance to write my first blog :).On closer analysis this model made sense to me as well.
Well to people who are hearing this for first time, by Auto Outsourcing we mean outsourcing automobile manufacturing to third party vendors whereas the design will be done by the original automobile manufacturer.
One may ask why on earth will manufacturing be outsourced? Good reasons I can think of are
1) the original automobile vendor does not have to invest in setting up a manufacturing plant in foreign countries to enter into the market.
2) Automobile manufacturer does not have to think about volume margins.

When we talk of Auto Outsourcing one company that comes to my mind is Magna Steyr.This company has bagged orders from BMW as early as 2003 when BMW announced the launch of X3.Magna Steyr will be actually manufacturing X3 till 2010. Infact BMW is not the only client for Magna Steyr .Audi ,Mercedes( and Daimler Chrsler),Volkswagen and Jeep are all its clients.(Courtesy: Wikipedia) And the other interesting aspect is that this company has its presence in India as well (in Pune to be precise).

So how does this business model impact Indian automobile component manufacturing companies? Well Indian companies are already supplying components to well known automobile manufacturers.So the next big step for them is to make it big by bagging subcontracts from the existing car manufacturers.
Time is not far off when Indian companies will play an active role in this space as well. One thing to be taken care of is that automobile manufacturing is not a clean industry(when pollution is considered) and also it needs better infrastructure for the industry to grow.Excellent port facilities should be available from where the automobiles can be exported.There should be proper cargo handling facilities.This is one more reason for Indian Government to seriously think of improving the infrastructure.
As time goes by the subcontractors can even graduate to individual automobile manufacturers and in turn build their own brand. So will the big boom for India come from one of its core industry ....Lets wait before passing our judgements :)