Friday, July 2, 2010

Commitmentphobia

This incident happened a week back.. I was walking back from office to my home. It's normally a very short walk and wouldn't take more than five minutes. But on that particular day I was mentally exhausted not because of hectic work but mainly because of thinking about what to do the entire day ;) So as I was walking , just behind me a couple of guys were also walking I guess to the bus stop that's on way to my room.
Normally when I walk I get completely involved with some thought or the other and infact most of the time I tend to even miss noticing people who walk in front if me or ahead of me. But that day , my mind was not preoccupied with any thought at all. So I started eaves dropping to their conversation which in first place should not have happened. If at all I have to justify then I guess it would be because of the subject of the discussion. They were actually conversing in Telugu about marriage. My Telugu lingual skills have improved considerably and now I have reached a level I can almost completely understand what people are talking. The only difficulty is that ofcourse I cannot reply back in Telugu. And the other reason as to why I was pulled into their conversation was because they were talking about "Marriage". And only a day before I was somehow succesfully able to ward off my roomates attempt to have a discussion about my plans when my parents came down to Bangalore . My roomies were quite determined to marry me off to "my fictitious girl friend" with the help off my parents. I was able to succesfully manage my parents as well as my roomies attempts thanks to my presence of mind as well as with little help from my friend whom we call as Mainframe.:) Coming back to the conversation, one guy was listing out the reasons as to why he want to delay his marriage. His simple logic was " you cannot totally avoid it but you can atleast delay it a bit" . There were many a reasons which were cited by him and ofcourse they were all personal about which I am definitely not going to dwell about it. But the entire crux of the discussion was that he had set some priorities in life of which currently marriage does not come into the list. He was saying that he was afraid of taking up responsibilities and especially he has fear of commitment. After that I was not able to eaves drop into their conversation.
This incident happened a week back but it is still in the back of my mind because a few weeks back there were a couple of questions directed towards to me.. ..
Why am I afraid of taking up responsibility?
Why am I afraid of getting commited?
I was not able to say that I have no fear though I know for sure that's the case.
If at all I have to prove that then I will have to walk down the aisle as well ;(
Today when I was travelling I thought I will google it out to find out whether there is any word in the vocabulary to describe "fear of Commitment". I thought there wouldn't be one but as usual google and wikipedia proved me wrong. There is a word to describe that fear and it is "Commitmentphobia". And hence the title of this blog.
This blog is because of my roomie Mr.Perfect . We also call him as "Stud of Bangalore". Hopefully he doesn't follow my blogs and hence I don't have to worry about the earning the wrath if his anger ;)